How To Be A Gentlewoman: The Art of Soft Power in Hard Times

Learn to navigate the harshness of life with soft power. My debut book weaves powerful life experience with practical advice and a psychological deep dive into what truly constitutes an emotionally rich and meaningful existence. I spoke to everyone from agony aunts and archeologists, to pop stars and novelists, to explore a diverse picture of what it is to truly live life well.

How To Be A Gentlewoman will teach you to lean out, recognise good relationships and let go of bad, create a space you love, find your people and create a happy and ‘joined up’ sense of yourself.

The gentle antidote to a brutal world.

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Lotte Jeffs is a fresh, unique and wry voice who writes with generosity and insight – the epitome of a gentlewoman, in fact. This is a brilliant and timely exploration of what it means to be a successful female in the 21st century.
Elizabeth Day, author of How to Fail

‘Part memoir, part manual – this is the type of book every modern woman can take something from’

Lotte is an eloquent and modern voice. How to Be A Gentlewoman is smart, inclusive and authentic.
Lorraine Candy, Editor-in-Chief of Sunday Times Style


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